If you’re dating in 2017, chances are at some point you’re going to be ghosted. And if it happens to you, you’ll probably start off getting mad, then sad, and then wondering what happened to make your love interest disappear like that. So where do you go from there? Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you get over being ghosted.
Step 1: Decide how much you should care - Rejection always stings. But if you’ve never actually met this person in real life, or only went on a date or two, you can’t take it personally because they can’t know you well enough to reject you yet. Best to delete their number and move on.
Step 2: Decide between classy and crazy - But if your relationship with the ghoster was more serious, you have to decide if you’re going to go the mature, classy route, or if you’re leaning toward crazy. Both have their upsides, it’s really up to you.
Step 3: The Classy Option - If you’re taking the high road, you can still call the ghoster out in a polite way. Something like, “Hi. I can see that you’re trying to phase me out quietly in a way that I might not notice, so it’s easier for you. I find this to be a little immature. It’s totally cool to decide I’m not for you, but let’s be adults and talk about it so I can continue to respect you.” Sounds good, right?
Step 4: The Crazy Option - When you don’t want to be the bigger person, you may get more satisfaction from it, just be prepared for the ghoster to screenshot your texts and send them to his friends with the caption, “psycho!” You could meet them on their level and send something like “See you tonight” with the flame emoji, and then quickly follow up with “Oops! Wrong text chain.” Or get into long rants about how they wronged you. Your call.
Step 5: Get Instagram revenge - Stop watching your ghoster’s Insta stories. Or better yet, just watch the first slide and then skip. They’ll wonder why someone cares so little they don’t want to finish the story. And that’s what they deserve for being a ghoster.
Step 6: Delete and forget - Time to move on with your life and forget they exist. You got this!
Source: The Zoe Report