Growing up is tough when you’re a teen and it doesn’t get much easier when you’re an adult. As we get older, we become more self-sufficient, and that means feeling confident in our abilities and really knowing ourselves. And sometimes we just have to fake it until we make it. But by the time we’re grown women, these are some things we need to learn how to do, no matter how intimidating they are.
- Negotiate pay - When you’re starting a new job or looking for a raise at your current one, it’s important to know what you’re worth. You have to believe it if you expect anyone else to.
- Turn down an invitation - You’ll get stuck doing a lot of things you don’t want to spend your time on if you don’t learn the art of saying no. Master this skill so you don’t accept dates you don’t want to go on or get guilted into going to events you don’t want to attend.
- Leave someplace when you’re not having fun - You only have so much time, why waste it on something you don’t want to do?
- Ask for what you want in bed - Less-than-stellar sex happens to everyone at some point, but if you get comfortable with asking for what you want, it’ll be better for you in bed.
- Respectfully disagree - Learning to listen to other people’s opinions even when you don’t agree with them is a valuable life skill that lets you connect with all kinds of people and stay true to yourself.
- Talk yourself up - No one wants to be a bragger, but if you’re not willing to talk yourself up for a job or some other opportunity, someone else who is willing to will happily take that opportunity.
- Take on things you don’t feel ready for - Part of growing up is encouraging yourself to do things you don’t think you can and trusting that you’ll figure it out. It can be scary, but so is being a grown up.