Kelly Clarkson was the lasted surprising celebrity divorce, but there seems a lot of issues may have led to the split. She discussed her abandonment issues and struggles or career vs. motherhood in Glamour UK.
Clarkson did the interview before the divorce was out, so she didn't specifically talk about the reason for the break up. She did, however, talk about struggles with her body image, personal abandonment issues that have haunted her and the constant stress of being a mother, while holding down a celebrity career. All of which, more than likely, played into the tension between her and Brandon Blackstock.
In quarantine, she told Glamour UK, "I have been on an emotional roller-coaster. This has been really hard as a working parent, because I'm still doing all the same jobs. It's been exhausting honestly, cooking every meal and cleaning nonstop after toddlers and teenagers!" She said she refuses to be an "absentee mother" because of her career. She puts her all into both. She told the magazine that she's told coworkers, "you hired a mom and I'm not an absentee mom. I'm a full-on mom."
One main reason for her focus on family, is her abandonment issues from her father. She said "I already have abandonment issues, so I don't want to pass those down." This is a struggle she's had for most of her life. "I don't think you get rid of that. I have people in my life that suffer from addiction to certain things and that doesn't go away. It's always there. It's just navigating your life around that existence in your life," Clarkson explained in the Glamour interview. "There are always things that happen that come up that bum you out, but at the same time you've got to recognize at some point though, that it's made you who you are."
From my own personal struggles with abandonment and divorced parents, I can tell you it effects every relationship you have in life. I have many marital struggles because of the way I cope with loss or the feelings of "she'll probably just leave anyway" that run through my head. This I guarantee put a lot of stress on her marriage.
Clarkson's new single called "I Dare You" deals with those inner issues. It's a song about "self-love" she said.
"Until you can love yourself and love who you are, I don't think that you're capable of applying it to others. You’re just holding yourself back and you're risking beautiful relationships that you could have with people because you just still haven't worked out your own damage," she said of the song.
That statement coupled with the recent divorce development speak loudly! Self-love is hard to achieve so I can't blame her.
A source close to the couple told “Entertainment Tonight” that the pair decided to call it quits “after realizing the relationship hasn’t been working for a while."
“Kelly and Brandon work together non-stop and that became a contention in their relationship.”
The insider also shared that "Brandon is the Executive Producer of her show as well as her manager. Also, Kelly has always brought up wanting more children, which Brandon doesn't."
Sources say when they quarantined in a secluded log cabin in Montana together, "things got worse". I'd assume, probably because they had to finally sit together and address the elephant in the room.
The couple has 2 kids together and 2 bonus kids from his previous marriage. They will have a hard time navigating this more than the adults, I can speak from experience. I'm praying they can find a good co-parenting plan and be there to manage the emotions their kids will experience. Divorce Sucks! God bless their family!
(Source: Glamour UK)